THE MEASURE YOU USE

Matthew 16:13

When Jesus and his disciples were near the town of Caesarea Philippi, he asked them, “What do people say about the Son of Man?”

Know-it-all people could be very vexing. Walang nag-eenjoy makasama ang mga nagpapakitang alam nila ang lahat. In fact, nakakailang sila. Sasabihin mo pa lang, “Sa palagay ko, bagay sa iyo ang red,” sasabihin nya, “Alam kong bagay sa akin ang red.” Ang hirap ng ganung kausap. Hindi ka na nya bibigyan ng pagkakataong magmukhang matalino dahil mas matalino siya lagi sa iyo. May sasabihin kang kapiraso lagi nyang tatabunan ng mas marami nyang kaalaman. The Lord was not like that, though he knew everything. He listened and asked very good questions.

Pag marunong tayong magtanong sa isang tao, yung akala nyang alam nya ay mare-review nya. Halimbawa, sinabi ng kaibigan mo, “Gustung-gusto kong pakasalan itong lalaking ito.” Tinanong mo, “Talaga bang gusto mong pakasalan siya?” Sa pagsagot nya sa iyo, pag-iisipan nya kung valid o hindi, strong or weak yung reasons nya. When you ask people to speak, you make them listen to themselves more than you wanting to listen to them.

Kaya kung talagang may malasakit ka sa tao, help them formulate the solutions to their problems and the conclusions about changes they want in their lives. Don’t turn situations into battles na may nananalo, may natatalo. Maraming ayaw na kino-correct sila. Kaya kahit mali ay sasadyain nilang gawin, huwag lang masabing nakinig sa iyo. Make people self-analyze and answer their own questions. Then it is easier for them to correct themselves.