LOVE PA RIN

Proverbs 15:17 (NIV)

Better a small serving of vegetables where there is love than a fattened calf with hatred.

Sa panahon ngayon, kapag puro salad at gulay ang kinakain, healthful living. Noong araw kasi, pag sinabing vegetable meal, pangmahirap lang yun, pangmaralita. Ang hindi natin alam, kaya pala malalakas ang katawan ng mga maralita kasi tama pala ang kinakain nila. Sabi nga sa Proverbs, mabuti pa yung gulay sa hapag ng mga mahihirap na may pagmamahalan, kaysa sa masarap na pagkain sa hapag ng mga nakakariwasang tao na nagbabangayan naman.

Mahalaga yung love. Not only parental love for the children, but also parental love for each other. There is nothing more that can unsettle children’s sense of security than hearing or knowing that their parents are quarreling. Kaya yung pagmamahal ng mga mag-asawa ay napakahalaga to create a very deep sense of security and belongingness in the emotion of a child.

Love must be verbalized. Sinasabi. Ipinadadama. Hindi tayo nawawalan ng dignity when we express our love. We should learn and re-learn to articulate it. Be present for your children. Hindi puede yung “Mahal na mahal kita, anak, pero hindi ako makakapunta doon sa affair ng mga parents. Bahala ka na sa teacher mo.” Dapat gawan ng paraan to operationalize that love and make it tangible. Itirintas ang buhok ng anak, gawan ng sandwich, smile at them, pat them on the back when they need encouragement. And love must be open to reciprocation. Allow the child to love you back. Love is shared. It goes in a circle that when you give love, you are willing to receive love as well.