LEAVE OTHERS ALONE

Ephesians 4:2

Patiently put up with each other and love each other.

Aloneness can be very helpful. It can bring back peace, balance and sanity. Let people rest from your presence and enjoy your absence. Paminsan-minsan, bigyan naman natin ng magandang regalo ang mga taong malapit sa atin. Yung regalo na wala tayo sa paligid nila. Dahil kahit gaano tayo kaibig-ibig at kanais-nais, kailangan din ang taong magpahinga mula sa ating presensya. Hindi yung lagi na lang tayong kasa-kasama, kabu-kabuntot at kadikit.

And this is one social behavior that many Filipinos sometimes have to learn: to leave people alone. Kung minsan kaya palaging aburido, bugnutin at mainit ang ulo ng mga tao ay dahil hindi na nararanasang mag-isa man lang. Hindi na nakakapag-isip, nakakapagbulay-bulay, at wala nang katahimikan.

Kahit sa mag-asawa, you should have a healthy level of independence and aloneness. Because we have to breathe. Mahalaga yun. Gusto nitong si lalaki lagi nyang kasama yung asawa nya, pagkatapos pagka namimili naman inip na inip na siya. Sasamahan pa raw kunwari pero yaya naman nang yayang umuwi. E di magpaiwan ka na lang sa bahay. O kaya sabihin mo, “Maghiwalay na lang tayo, magkita na lang tayo mamaya.” Pero yung lagi mong kasama ‘tapos inaapura mo nang inaapura, bakit hindi mo bigyan ng oras? O kaya sasama nga pero alam na alam mo namang hindi talaga nag-eenjoy.

Treat aloneness as rest from the pressure of being with people no matter how much you love them, at the same time, as a gift to them that they may also enjoy their time and space on their own.